Love is wonderful!
When someone you love is no longer there with you, this can become something that is extremely difficult to handle, to deal with, and to find your way to a place where you feel as though you can function again - but you can.
give yourself permission to heal
Everyone always hears people say that time heals your wounds and while that is true to a certain extent, it is much harder than it sounds. I want to see if I can help those of you who are missing someone you love and help you to heal a little bit more.
Ok so I hate to say time heals but it does. It may seem like it will never happen but it does. Please do not misunderstand me though. Healing is not the same as forgetting. In time, what once seemed like a horrifying nightmare that you could never possible move forward through, you will learn to look upon the memory of your loved one with a big smile on your face and the memories will make your heart glow once again. This is... if you let that happen.
People tend to hold on to the hurt and pain of someone's loss because of many reasons. Some feel that they should not enjoy themself because their loved on is not living any longer. They feel it may be an insult or that the deceased may feel that they were not loved. Some people hold feelings of guilt for things they wish they would have done or not done so they punish themselves and do not allow themselves the opportunity to heal. Others feel that healing means forgetting - to leave the deceased behind and how could they ever do that? Some cannot fathom the heart bond being so broken that they hold on to their loved ones memory so hard and so deeply that they literally stop functioning. Sure there are other reasons as well but these are some of them.
They know more than you think
Just because they are no longer inhabiting a physical body does not mean that they simply cease to exist. They just exist in another form and that form was designed to exist in another plane of existence. These planes all intertwine within each other and being in the form that they are in - they can get through to our plane a lot easier than we can to theirs but it can be done.
If your heart feels broken, it is telling you that you need to take the time to tune into your loved one and feel their love still with you. I know it is not the same as when they could wrap their arms around you for a great big hug, but they can hug your heart and your soul just as easily and in all honesty, that is a much deeper and loving bond than our physical one is.
If you hold on to your loved one so hard because you just can't bare to let go - and remember that letting go doesn't mean letting go of them, you are just preventing them to move into their new life. Yes that may sound awful to some - to leave you all alone and get on without you in a new life - but you can't think of it like that - if you hold on too tight, you can actually keep them from living again. They had to leave this life so you need to love them enough to let them live.
Yes they are alive - very much so and more so than we are here in our own existence. They can and do come to visit. They can and do send you love, thoughts, and ideas. The last thing that your loved one wants is to see you hurting. This hurts them as well. It is perfectly normal to grieve and do not let anyone tell you when you should stop grieving because that is a personal and unique emotion. It will however, become something you can learn to live with and if you can heal your heart, that is when you can make a much better connection with your loved one.
Communicate with your loved one
Although it is true, meditation is the best and most effective way to communicate with an energy that exists on another plane of existence, not everyone is a meditator. The more you speak to your loved one, the more they will be around you. The best time to try to tune into the energy of the one you are missing is to do so when it is quiet and still - nighttime is usually a great time to try this. Ask your loved one to come talk with you and then just close your eyes and feel them. Notice the little, subtle changes. These changes are not your imagination or wishful thinking but the energies moving around you that belong to the person you asked for. If the air gets colder or warmer, if you smell something, if you get that 'feeling' - if you can picture them in your head, if you can feel them in your heart - they are there. Sometimes, if a person is grieving - it may be difficult to feel these changes and with some discarnate beings, they may not create any noticeable changes at all. This does not mean that they are not there with you.
Your loved ones can visit you in your dreams as well. It is much easier for them to enter into your subconscious mind because it is more open, free of blocks that take hold when you are awake, and more receptive to energies. If you have a visitation in your dream and you feel like it was real - it was.
You can ask your loved ones questions but start out simple. Ask questions that require a yes or no answer. Ask your question and then listen for an answer. Please know that they answer in many ways. When I say listen, I do not mean that literally in the sense that you would get a response from a friend standing next to you. In rare cases will a person actually hear an audible voice. Instead, if you are going to hear an answer, it will sound like when you are thinking about what someone said earlier to you - when you recall their answer or what they said, you hear it in your head. That is the way that you will 'hear' an answer. This is the reason why so many people believe that what they 'hear' is something they just made up. You must trust in your ability to communicate. The more you trust, the more you work on this, the more success you will have. You might also get a picture or several pictures flash in your mind's eye that will give you your response. You could just get a really strong feeling that will come over you. These are all very real psychic responses that you can learn to do for yourself with some practice.
They love you eternally and unconditionally
Remember your loved one with a smile on your face and in your heart and they will smile back down upon you like a bright beam of sunshine warming and comforting your soul. Your loved one knows that you have a gift right now - the gift to experience this time and place, to explore this existence and they want you to take what you have learned and start to live life - not simply exist. Make each day better and better. Go after your dreams and live your life. They will be with you sharing it together.