There is so much that goes on beyond this physical realm that we reside in. Beyond what our senses can relate to, there are so many other forms of existence, both physical, non-physical, and even a state that we cannot begin to fathom. There is the edge of all universe's and then there are points beyond that. There are planes upon planes upon dimensions, upon things that would not even begin to make sense to any of us.
How do I know this? Well, our scientists are discovering more and more each day about the amazing wonders of existence and they are finally starting to be able to put some proof on the claims that many psychics have been saying for ages now. Not only that, but I seem to have a little inside information about this stuff due to a wonderful entity that know and love, that I call Daniel. For those that do not know me very well - Daniel is who I consider to be my spirit guide. He is actually much more than that - he is a very high level spirit being that has been helping me to help others for as long as I can remember.
I suppose I wanted to talk about death because that is what I have on my mind tonight. I understand the pain of those that are in the process of losing someone they love, as well as the grieving that takes place after they have left this world. No one is ever ready to lose someone they love, and the person that is leaving doesn't really want to leave behind the wonderful people they shared this life with. However, unfortunately it is inevitable and the cycle of life and rebirth commences with no respect to our feelings. I am hoping that perhaps, some of my words may help you with the loss of a loved one.
It is so very important to grieve after the loss of a loved one. Death is a huge stress factor and it can affect our own health. Getting over the loss of a loved one is no simple task and can have no time limit. In all actually, I feel that we never get over their loss - we just learn how to put it in a place where we can learn to live again and be happy. People don't realize the importance of this. It is not only important for the person who lost the loved one, but it is also important to the one that has passed on. Just because a person is not longer in the physical, it certainly does not mean that they are still not with us. Indeed, now their home is in a different level of existence but these levels are so close to us, you can reach out and touch it with your hand. The difference between some people and myself, is that I can sense into those levels where maybe someone else may not be able to sense them.
A recently deceased loved one may return immediately to visit loved ones and let them know that they are ok - or perhaps they may need a short period of time to 'recuperate' from their life they just left. After they regroup and adjust, they come back to say hello, i'm doing great, please don't worry about me. Of course we are human in a human vehicle, with human emotions so therefore, we grieve and that is perfectly normal to do - and we NEED to do that!
During the first year of a deceased person's new life - they usually tend to visit on all important holidays and anniversary's. Now please do not get upset if your loved one only came for your birthday but not Christmas. They do get involved with a life, projects, and other things and sometimes they cannot always come to everything but just as you might have to decline a party because you have to work, they may also have to decline. They are there however, when it is really important. Even if you cannot pick up their presence, they are there. Also, their time to visit is not limited to special occasions and holidays - they can come anytime. Particularly when you want them near.
After the first year, they may not come as often as they may have the first year, and it may taper off even more as the years go by. This is not because they do not love you. Their love for you is even greater now than it was when they were here because in their new state of being, they feel love much more intensely. It has a much higher meaning, one that we cannot really understand. They love us all so very much!
One thing you can always do is speak to them. Just let them know you want to spend time with them and talk to them. Many people who come to me are so very upset because they didn't tell them they loved them, or they didn't say something that they wished they would have, or did something they should have and now they have regrets that really upset them. There is no need to feel this way. A deceased loved one already knows what it is you wanted to tell them or do. When we pass on, we are privy to information that us living folks do not have. They know our purpose for our life, they know our challenges, they know our fears, they know our mistakes, they know everything and they are all completely loving and forgiving. If you did something you feel bad for, it is completely forgiven and all they want to do is give you their love. If you feel you didn't see them enough, they understand - even if it was because you didn't know how to handle being around them when they were sick or if you had to work, or whatever the reason, bad or good - it is totally forgiven. Of course this is not to say that next time someone you love is ready to pass on, it is ok to not do things you would like to do because they appreciate it all very deeply.
These people may not be here in physical form but believe me, they are here. They do love you, they do spend time with you - even if you cannot feel it. I believe that if you can find the patience and time to spend getting quiet in meditation and focusing upon them, you will eventually being to feel their love.
Please try to see death in a different way. It is not the end but a beginning. We live, die, and are reborn. We pass through levels of awareness and growth. Everything we do is for a purpose, for learning, for growing and not just for ourselves, but for all of the people we come in contact with in this lifetime. Celebrate a loved one and smile at their memories. They are happier than they were here and we will be with them sooner than we think. This life may seem like a long time when it spans 70 or 80 years but to someone who is 70, they will say, "Where did the time go?" To a deceased person, our lifetime is but a blip in space. It was like they took a two week vacation in the world of the living and now they are home awaiting our vacation to be over. Well, it's not a vacation I'd choose again, but many of us do - over and over until we graduate.
Live life and be happy. Enjoy every day. Let your loved ones smile and be happy by seeing that you are choosing life. Don't let them feel a heavy weight when they see you are depressed and don't want to move on. They need you to honestly be happy. There is a lifetime of reasons to smile. Find yours - it is out there.