One of the first things we need to do is to step back from everything and take a very honest inventory of everything in our life. What things we like, what and who we love, what we dislike, and what causes our troubles and such. It is of dire importance to be completely honest with yourself here. You can lie to yourself or kid yourself about anything but then you are only hurting yourself and sometimes it spills over to someone you love as well. So after taking an inventory of your life, make a list of pros and cons about it all and really examine it. Note what areas you are unhappy with and which ones make you smile. Is it that certain someone who when you just think of them, a ridiculous smiles crosses your face? Then that tells you something. Some people will spite themselves just for the sake of absolutely nothing, or because they worry about what ifs and what was. You have feelings for reasons.
People live and learn. Remember, we are here to learn unconditional love and total forgiveness by learning from the lessons that life puts in front of us. Let's face it, we all SCREW UP! The difference between people in that regard is that some actually learn from their mistakes, and some just continue to be repeat offenders. When mistakes occur, we need to evaluate them, be honest about what happened, and then most importantly, we need to FIND THE LESSON IN THEM. Every mistake, every bad choice, every mess up in life, is meant to be a learning experience and the bad news is that if you don't look for the lesson and find it, and you don't actually apply it, learn from it, you can bet your little ass it will happen again and again and again until you finally GET IT! The good news is that once you get it, you will be freed of that lesson and then its onto the next. LOL Don't fret though, there will be wonderful rewards for your efforts. That is the cycle of life. Ups and downs, good times and bad times, over and over but you can make the bad times diminish and accentuate the good. It is all up to you because guess what? We all have free will. So sit down and think about your life, your love life, your career, your friends, your family, your hobbies, your extracurricular activities and anything you consume your time with. How do they all fit into your life? Then ask yourself, is there something that I've always wanted to do or have? Ask yourself, what makes you really happy and what makes your heart sing?
Ask yourself if your job makes you happy and if so, be very, very rejoyceful because 98% of the population hates going to their jobs. If your job is stressful or makes you want to jump off a cliff then you need another job. If you don't change jobs because you have too much time in or you don't know how to do anything else, then you seriously need to do something about it. If you don't change things, if you don't take chances, you will go to your grave with a wasted life. Life isn't about slaving away just to try to own possessions that will never ever matter in the long run. Life is about living - forget the possessions, explore the mysteries that life has to offer, spend more time with the people that mean something in your life - you can't get these people back. I'm not saying don't work hard, just don't kill yourself doing it.
If the person you love treats you the way you should be treated - like gold, then consider yourself the luckiest person on earth because people these days are really shits. Sorry but it is true. Everyone is out for themselves, are self-centered, are outrageously nasty, want everything their way, don't want to give, just take, are shallow, ignorant, make fun of others and think its great, have no values, no morals, etc. You see where I'm going with this right? If the person you love is not treating you right, then you need to try to either work it out or if it is total distrust or abuse you need to end it right then and there and never look back. At times, second chances can be justified but the reason for the second chance is usually not something that would apply to this justification. If it didn't work out the first time, you can bet your sweet buns it won't work out subsequent times. If you stay with someone you know is not right for you, then you will regret wasting all that time in something futile. Most of the times, a person knows deep down - or maybe not so deep - that they should leave, yet they stay in hopes that things WILL get better. Will is always in the future so you WILL always be waiting. You can't fix people. They are who they are.
You need to find the correct balance between all the things in your life. It is certainly not an easy thing to do but while you are spending so much time doing useless things like Facebook, lol, you can be working on making changes to the most important thing there is... your life. It is up to you to make yourself happy. No one can do it for you and having a significant other in your life hoping to make you happy and fill that void or complete you, will only work for so long before you realize that the void is still there. Another person is wonderful but only you can complete yourself. Another person can only compliment who you already are. You were born with EVERYTHING to make your life right, everything to handle every situation that arises. You are never given anything that you can't handle even though you feel it may be the end of your life, or you rather it was, you can and will and do handle it and life goes on. Make the best of it. I've been there, done that and I'm still doing that. Oh, and one word of advice. Do this stuff when you are young cuz the older you get the harder it gets to put it all back on track, take my word for it but remember, it still can be done. If you believe it can, than it can. Believing in yourself is way more than half the battle. Let's all make our lives awesome and fix this dang world so we can party on brothers. lol Night night!